viernes, 27 de septiembre de 2019


septiembre 27, 2019 0

I was first thinking , when exactly does one start to yearn for acceptance? 

 Is it when we are born? 

 Is it when we first feel the pain of non-acceptance? 

 Is it when we begin to be challenged in sports? 

 Is it when we fall into the ever talked about `peer pressure`? 

 Is it when we fall  in love? 

 Is it when we start a new job? 

 Is it when we become a new member of a family? 

 Is it when we move to a new city or country? 

 Is it when we write our very first book?

 I believe it is all of the above, when people  feel the need to be accepted, they will do leaps and bounds to succeed in this quest. 

 Athletes and body builders will take drugs to win..winning=acceptance. 

 When we fall in love , our entire being wants to feel accepted by our mate. 

 Authors will spend hours and hours to write the exact words to please their readers and go to great lengths to publish their creation. 

 Becoming a new member of a family whether it be through marriage or adoption will create a need to be nurtured as one who genuinely belongs. 

 Starting a new job is a definite acceptance need, we need to fit in so we can relax and apply ourselves 100% to our job. 

  Moving to a new country or city or even just a new neighbourhood, is very challenging for us and to be accepted and fit in, is a very important step in our settling in.  

  Lets not forget` Peer Pressure` , that's a tough one, children just getting started in high school suffer the most with this one, hormones are swinging and their emotions are so sensitive. The fears that they have struggle with for the year before is all up front and  they have a whole lot of reality to deal with. To fit in and be accepted by their peers is more than half the battle. 

  Being a baby has a world of need to be accepted and see our parents smile when we please them. 

  The pain of non acceptance for the first time cuts like a knife. It wounds us for life, creating a scar that we grow with forever. 

  All these worries ,  needs and desires are in all of us that live and breathe.  Some of us feel the hunger for acceptance less than others.  Some of us cannot live with out acceptance , we become obsessed in our thinking, trying anything we can to fit in. 

  Do you read the words "self esteem" in anything I have written here today. Yup and it is in every sentence. The need for acceptance somehow effects our self-esteem which in turns affects our emotional stability where jealousy , worry and anxiety seed from.. If you know the feeling of non-acceptance or low self-esteem, then you know how controlled you are by the worry that follows them and how much of your life is imprisoned by that other mind. 

 Low self-esteem and non-acceptance are exactly that, `another mind` and one can actually feel them at war . It reminds me of the good devil and bad devil scenario. Trust me here it is no fun for the person that is imprisoned by it, not only do they have to balance the two minds, but they also have the guilt that they feel when they see what the result of the battle in their heads is doing to the people around them. The constant questions that one faces as in  my blog  FEELINGS!!!!  are an added pain to the already lonely tortured person. 

 So if anyone out there knows a person that suffers  from non-acceptance or low self-esteem, HUGG  them and please try to have more patience and understand that they are not having a picnic and that if just saying , "stop it" or "just don`t think about it"  could  stop it, they would in a heart beat. We all need support and acceptance to get us through our lows. Kicking someone when they are down, never ever helps them to get up.  

 I am doing what I can through my web site and my blog to help educate people and help them understand what low self-esteem is all about and how very intense and serious it is.  If any of you ever have any questions, please contact me or leave me a comment and I will do my best to answer it.

Dorothy Lafrinere

Website- http://www.womensselfesteem.com 
Weblog- http://www.justblogme.com/Dorothy 
Forum- http://womenselfesteem.proboards29.com 
email- dorothy@womensselfesteem.com

miércoles, 11 de septiembre de 2019


septiembre 11, 2019 0

En mi antiguo blog MENTE FILOSÓFICA escribí algunas razones por las cuales me parece importante saber de filosofía, aquí les refresco aquellas ideas:

-La Filosofía es útil porque permite desarrollar la racionalidad mediante las continuas interrogantes que nos vamos haciendo a sí mismos a través de las circunstancias de nuestra vida.

-La Filosofía sirve para adquirir conocimiento, el que filosofa siempre procura indagar y conocer, y eso siempre es beneficioso, porque nos previene acerca de lo que puede suceder.

-Gracias a la Filosofía el ser humano se da cuenta del gran tesoro que representa su mente.

-El que filosofa se da cuenta de que todo lo que nos aporta el mundo de los sentidos tiene limitaciones e insatisfacciones y que hay un mundo más allá, que nos puede permitir elevarnos a un nivel superior de pensamiento.

-La Filosofía nos permite entender con mayor claridad los problemas propios y los ajenos, se entienden mejor las circunstancias y se está más preparado para el futuro.

-La Filosofía como ciencia y arte de pensar nos puede alejar de la estupidez y maldad tan arraigada en las mentes colectivas.

-El ser humano sabe lo útil que son los conceptos de los filósofos del pasado, porque de ellos se puede extraer un criterio propio mediante el cual uno guie su vida correctamente.

-El hecho de filosofar, abre surcos de lucidez en la mente que en cambio quedan dormidos en mentes totalmente entregadas al mundo de las apariencias.

-El verdadero sentido de la vida sólo se puede lograr desarrollando la mente y esta evoluciona a través de las ideas sanas producto de la constante reflexión analítica que es la propia filosofía de vida de cada uno.

-La genuina y productiva filosofía es la que uno va aprendiendo partiendo del conocimiento de la propia realidad contrastada con el exterior.

-La Filosofía que se aprende de libros y escuelas, es útil, pero la trascendente es la Filosofía personal que cultivamos mediante la confianza y el conocimiento.

-La Filosofía nos permite enfocar la vida con una visión más tranquila de las cosas del mundo que nos rodea, si bien el proceso por adquirir una mente filosofíca puede ser un camino de angustias, dudas e incertidumbres, al final esa mente cultivada está más preparada para los retos y en general lo que nos depare el destino.

-El ser humano que filosofa, no se conforma con la simple existencia de satisfacer necesidades básicas. Él busca entender el mundo y las circunstancias de su vida con el fin de hallar su razón de ser que es su Felicidad.


jueves, 11 de julio de 2019

7 secrets to a great life

julio 11, 2019 0
7 secrets to a great life

A great life doesn’t happen by accident.  A great life is the result of allocating your time, energy, thoughts, and hard work towards what you want your life to be. A great life is the result of using the 24/7 you get in a creative and thoughtful way, instead of just what comes next.  Customize these “secrets” to fit your own needs and style, and start creating your own great life today! 

1.  S – Simplify.
A great life is the result of simplifying your life.  People often misinterpret what simplify means.  It’s not a way to remove work from your life.  When you focus on simplifying your life, you free up energy and time for the work that you enjoy and the purpose for which you are here.  In order to create a great life, you will have to make room for it in yours first. 
2.  E – Effort.
A great life is the result of your best effort.  Creating a great life requires that you make some adjustments.  It may mean re-evaluating how you spend your time, or choosing to spend your money in a different way.  It may mean looking for new ways to spend your energy that coincide with your particular definition of a great life.  Life will reward your best effort.  
3.  C – Create Priorities.
A great life is the result of creating priorities.  It’s easy to spend your days just responding to the next thing that gets your attention, instead of intentionally using the time, energy and money you have in a way that’s important to you. Focus on removing the obstacles that get in the way of you making sure you are honoring your priorities.  
4.  R – Reserves.
A great life is the result of having reserves – reserves of things, time, space, energy, money, love. Simplify first in order to find a reserve, then build on that.  For example, in order to find a reserve of time, first simplify by delegating a task to someone else, or simply dumping the task if it’s no longer important.  With reserves, you are able to live your life looking forward instead of always digging yourself out of a hole.  
5.  E – Eliminate distractions.
A great life is the result of eliminating distractions.  Up to 75% of your mental energy can be tied up in things that are draining and distracting you. Eliminating distractions can be a difficult concept to many people, since they haven’t really considered that there is another way to live.  Look around at someone’s life that you admire.  What do they do that you would like to incorporate into your own life?  Ask them how they did it.  Find ways to free up your mental energy for things that are more important to you.   
6.  T – Thoughts.
A great life is the result of controlling your thoughts so that you accept and allow for the possibility that it actually can happen to you!  Your belief in the outcome will directly dictate how successful you are.  Motivated people have specific goals and look for ways to achieve them.  Believing there is a solution to the same old problems you encounter year after year is vitally important to creating a life that you love.   Whatever you think and believe, you create.  Listen to what you’re telling yourself, and adjust that voice if you need to.  
7.  S – Start!
A great life is the result of starting.  There’s the old saying everyone’s familiar with “a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”  In order to even move from the couch to the refrigerator, you have to start.  There’s no better time to start than today.  Don’t wait for a raise, or until the kids get older, or the weather is better.  Today, right now, is the right day to start to take a step in the direction of your heart’s desires.  It’s what you do TODAY that will make a difference in your life tomorrow. 

Author:Kathy Gates, Professional Life Coach

miércoles, 1 de mayo de 2019

3 Easy Ways to Reduce Stress

mayo 01, 2019 0
3 Easy Ways to Reduce Stress

Stress, America’s #1 health problem, is a leading cause of major illness. In fact, heart disease, high blood pressure, and depression are just some of the harmful effects of stress. Research has shown that releasing stress and learning how to relax promotes a healthier, happier, and more fulfilling life.

Here are 3 easy ways to reduce your stress fast.

1. Breathe Deeply

Take 3 slow deep breaths. Taking the breath from your diaphragm, through your nose, holding for about 2 seconds and then slowly exhaling through your mouth. Why slow deep breaths? Because when we are under stress, we tense up, constricting the oxygen to our body. Taking slow deep breaths brings oxygen throughout our body resulting in feeling centered and releasing stress. Giving your body much needed oxygen will release tension and stress fast.

2. Meditate

The purpose of meditation is to relax and to release stress. Meditation allows the body to relax and permits a means to release the "chatter" in your mind. It is important for you to know that there is no right or wrong way to meditate. Meditation is simply a form of concentration and focus; it is a process that quiets the mind. Since much of our negative stress is caused by our own thoughts, this is an especially useful method. 

Here are steps for a popular, quick, and easy guided meditation: 

Get into a comfortable position and close your eyes. 
Take 3 deep breaths. 
Visualize all the stress in your mind and body as a cloud of gray smoke. Allow this cloud to be released through the crown of your head. Imagine the gray cloud floating into the sky and disappearing. Feel the weight of the stress being releasing out of your body and into the cloud. Allow your shoulders to drop and continue until you have no more gray smoke or for about 10 minutes. 
Imagine a healing white light that has surrounded your body. Feel the warmth of this light and allow it to infiltrate your body. Slowly open your eyes. 

3. Try Hypnosis

This technique involves sitting comfortably with your eyes closed while listening to suggestions. Hypnosis is relaxation, focus, and suggestion. Using these three elements your mind and body will enter into a deeply relaxed state that gives you an overall sense of well being and tranquility. Hypnosis is one of the oldest and most natural modes of healing dating back to 1000 B.C. In 1958 the American Medical Association approved the therapeutic use of hypnosis. This brought mainstream recognition that hypnotherapy was a valid and legitimate form of healing. During this time hypnotherapy was respected and accepted in America. 
Meditation & Guided Imagery are techniques that use the natural power of the mind in creating what you want in life. Einstein estimated that we only use 10% of our brains. In practicing Meditation and Guided Imagery, we have access to the other 90%. Since thoughts are one of the most powerful possessions we can have, it is important to keep the thoughts and images positive. Meditation and Guided Imagery works because the Physical Universe is energy, this energy is vibrating at different speeds. Energy is magnetic causing similar thoughts to attract other similar thoughts. What we dwell on, we will attract. Thoughts and ideas are high vibrating forms of energy and are very powerful. Form then follows ideas. This is the reason that thoughts and ideas in Meditation and Guided Imagery particularly must be in a positive form.

Here are some steps to make 
Meditation and Hypnosis more effective.

Desire- You must have the desire to make a positive change in your life.
Belief- You must believe in the power of the mind.
Acceptance- You must accept the process of Meditation and Hypnotherapy including the results. 
Set you goal- Decide on what you want and be committed to it.
Create a Clear Idea or Picture- Create the vision in your imagination and make it clear.
Focus on it often- Keep the images of your goal in your mind as often as possible.
Give it Positive Energy- Keep your frame of mind and thoughts positive.
Look For the Positive Changes- Look for the subtle ways Meditation and Hypnosis are changing your life, and believe in the magic of life!

Author:Marla Sloane

jueves, 14 de marzo de 2019

Giving and Taking

marzo 14, 2019 0
Giving and Taking

Is there anything that gives us more joy than giving of ourselves? I’m not talking about giving gifts; I’m talking about giving time and effort to make a difference in another person’s life. Putting some effort into giving is so much more rewarding than taking.

 Time is the most wonderful gift you can give anyone. Anyone who has or had a great parent will tell you that the greatest gift their parent gave them was time. Time to read, time to play, time to talk and time to listen is fantastic gifts to children and is never forgotten.

 Do you give enough time to your loved ones now that you’re an adult? Knowing that it is a precious gift that costs nothing at all makes it so easy to give!

 Now, make an actual effort to give someone your time. For example, call a friend, or a Church member you know, or your sister-in-law and invite them to coffee; not someone you’ve invited before, but someone new.

 Or go visit someone who is cooped up at home or in the nursing home. Bake someone cookies, or take a plant or a bouquet of flowers from your garden. Make a connection and make an effort to keep that connection.

 Giving, in lieu of taking, is so much more rewarding and will be a huge source of inner happiness for you, not to mention those lives you will touch. Giving is a true win-win gift!