septiembre 2019 - EL ENFOQUE CORRECTO

viernes, 27 de septiembre de 2019


septiembre 27, 2019 0

I was first thinking , when exactly does one start to yearn for acceptance? 

 Is it when we are born? 

 Is it when we first feel the pain of non-acceptance? 

 Is it when we begin to be challenged in sports? 

 Is it when we fall into the ever talked about `peer pressure`? 

 Is it when we fall  in love? 

 Is it when we start a new job? 

 Is it when we become a new member of a family? 

 Is it when we move to a new city or country? 

 Is it when we write our very first book?

 I believe it is all of the above, when people  feel the need to be accepted, they will do leaps and bounds to succeed in this quest. 

 Athletes and body builders will take drugs to win..winning=acceptance. 

 When we fall in love , our entire being wants to feel accepted by our mate. 

 Authors will spend hours and hours to write the exact words to please their readers and go to great lengths to publish their creation. 

 Becoming a new member of a family whether it be through marriage or adoption will create a need to be nurtured as one who genuinely belongs. 

 Starting a new job is a definite acceptance need, we need to fit in so we can relax and apply ourselves 100% to our job. 

  Moving to a new country or city or even just a new neighbourhood, is very challenging for us and to be accepted and fit in, is a very important step in our settling in.  

  Lets not forget` Peer Pressure` , that's a tough one, children just getting started in high school suffer the most with this one, hormones are swinging and their emotions are so sensitive. The fears that they have struggle with for the year before is all up front and  they have a whole lot of reality to deal with. To fit in and be accepted by their peers is more than half the battle. 

  Being a baby has a world of need to be accepted and see our parents smile when we please them. 

  The pain of non acceptance for the first time cuts like a knife. It wounds us for life, creating a scar that we grow with forever. 

  All these worries ,  needs and desires are in all of us that live and breathe.  Some of us feel the hunger for acceptance less than others.  Some of us cannot live with out acceptance , we become obsessed in our thinking, trying anything we can to fit in. 

  Do you read the words "self esteem" in anything I have written here today. Yup and it is in every sentence. The need for acceptance somehow effects our self-esteem which in turns affects our emotional stability where jealousy , worry and anxiety seed from.. If you know the feeling of non-acceptance or low self-esteem, then you know how controlled you are by the worry that follows them and how much of your life is imprisoned by that other mind. 

 Low self-esteem and non-acceptance are exactly that, `another mind` and one can actually feel them at war . It reminds me of the good devil and bad devil scenario. Trust me here it is no fun for the person that is imprisoned by it, not only do they have to balance the two minds, but they also have the guilt that they feel when they see what the result of the battle in their heads is doing to the people around them. The constant questions that one faces as in  my blog  FEELINGS!!!!  are an added pain to the already lonely tortured person. 

 So if anyone out there knows a person that suffers  from non-acceptance or low self-esteem, HUGG  them and please try to have more patience and understand that they are not having a picnic and that if just saying , "stop it" or "just don`t think about it"  could  stop it, they would in a heart beat. We all need support and acceptance to get us through our lows. Kicking someone when they are down, never ever helps them to get up.  

 I am doing what I can through my web site and my blog to help educate people and help them understand what low self-esteem is all about and how very intense and serious it is.  If any of you ever have any questions, please contact me or leave me a comment and I will do my best to answer it.

Dorothy Lafrinere


miércoles, 11 de septiembre de 2019


septiembre 11, 2019 0

En mi antiguo blog MENTE FILOSÓFICA escribí algunas razones por las cuales me parece importante saber de filosofía, aquí les refresco aquellas ideas:

-La Filosofía es útil porque permite desarrollar la racionalidad mediante las continuas interrogantes que nos vamos haciendo a sí mismos a través de las circunstancias de nuestra vida.

-La Filosofía sirve para adquirir conocimiento, el que filosofa siempre procura indagar y conocer, y eso siempre es beneficioso, porque nos previene acerca de lo que puede suceder.

-Gracias a la Filosofía el ser humano se da cuenta del gran tesoro que representa su mente.

-El que filosofa se da cuenta de que todo lo que nos aporta el mundo de los sentidos tiene limitaciones e insatisfacciones y que hay un mundo más allá, que nos puede permitir elevarnos a un nivel superior de pensamiento.

-La Filosofía nos permite entender con mayor claridad los problemas propios y los ajenos, se entienden mejor las circunstancias y se está más preparado para el futuro.

-La Filosofía como ciencia y arte de pensar nos puede alejar de la estupidez y maldad tan arraigada en las mentes colectivas.

-El ser humano sabe lo útil que son los conceptos de los filósofos del pasado, porque de ellos se puede extraer un criterio propio mediante el cual uno guie su vida correctamente.

-El hecho de filosofar, abre surcos de lucidez en la mente que en cambio quedan dormidos en mentes totalmente entregadas al mundo de las apariencias.

-El verdadero sentido de la vida sólo se puede lograr desarrollando la mente y esta evoluciona a través de las ideas sanas producto de la constante reflexión analítica que es la propia filosofía de vida de cada uno.

-La genuina y productiva filosofía es la que uno va aprendiendo partiendo del conocimiento de la propia realidad contrastada con el exterior.

-La Filosofía que se aprende de libros y escuelas, es útil, pero la trascendente es la Filosofía personal que cultivamos mediante la confianza y el conocimiento.

-La Filosofía nos permite enfocar la vida con una visión más tranquila de las cosas del mundo que nos rodea, si bien el proceso por adquirir una mente filosofíca puede ser un camino de angustias, dudas e incertidumbres, al final esa mente cultivada está más preparada para los retos y en general lo que nos depare el destino.

-El ser humano que filosofa, no se conforma con la simple existencia de satisfacer necesidades básicas. Él busca entender el mundo y las circunstancias de su vida con el fin de hallar su razón de ser que es su Felicidad.